There really are places in the heart you don’t even know exist until you love a child. – Anne Lamott, Operating Instructions: A Journal of My Son’s First Year
Growing up, my parents were among the very few that were still married as many of my friends were products of divorce. While this was not an ideal situation, I remember the one thing that made it worse was hearing one parent speak negatively about the other parent or the people in that child’s life. I also noticed that it always had the reverse affect and caused that child to hate the one spewing the mean words.
Friend after friend all said the same things and expressed hurt, so as a kid I made a decision to never EVER speak negatively about the other parent in front of my child. no matter how you feel about that parent (and you chose them btw) your child should be able to form their own opinion and be allowed to view that parent as a superhero.
You will not always see eye to eye as you co-parent but you only hurt them by arguing in front of them or resorting to hurtful name calling in their presence.
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