The Lucky Ones

There really are places in the heart you don’t even know exist until you love a child. – Anne Lamott, Operating Instructions: A Journal of My Son’s First Year

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Growing up, my parents were among the very few that were still married as many of my friends were products of divorce. While this was not an ideal situation, I remember the one thing that made it worse was hearing one parent speak negatively about the other parent  or the people in that child’s life. I also noticed that it always had the reverse affect and caused that child to hate the one spewing the mean words.

Friend after friend all said the same things and expressed hurt, so as a kid I made a decision to never EVER speak negatively about the other parent in front of my child. no matter how you feel about that parent (and you chose them btw) your child should be able to form their own opinion and be allowed to view that parent as a superhero.

You will not always see eye to eye as you co-parent but you only hurt them by arguing in front of them or resorting to hurtful name calling in their presence.

I thought this was a great article..

http://everydaylife.globalpost.com/one-parent-talks-bad-kid-other-parent-41832.html

 

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It Pours..

I wish tonight was thundering and lightning. Rain pouring down on us.

We’d have to duck into one of those big french doorways to keep from getting wet… Between the laughter, the brandy we drank and the noise from the rain.. we would make love…

I don’t care who sees us..

The 500 Million Dollar Question

I think in life we have to be honest with ourselves. Recently, I thought about my life in a very real way. The whole thing. I took a hard look and then I asked myself the question:

If you had a half a billion dollars what would you do? How would it change you? I know many of my friends would leave jobs, some would leave relationships, others would even leave the city in which they live… Me? I wouldn’t change a thing and that’s a very good feeling…

I love acting and being an artist, I love LA, I have a great love life and I love creating..

Don’t get me wrong, there would be some serious alterations!  I would change my square footage, I would do more traveling, buy some very big toys, an apartment in Paris, take care of my extended family, visit more castles, have caviar for breakfast but the essence of my life would remain the same because I’m happily pursuing my dreams

Now..You just got a check for 500 million bucks, what would you do?

 

My Today..

I choose to feel good.. really good..

 

Remember that being a success without happiness is meaningless.
– Richard Denny –
If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realizing that you are the author and everyday you have the opportunity to write a new page
– Mark Houlahan –

My Dearest Augustine

Women are aristocrats, and it is always the mother who makes us feel that we belong to the better sort. – John Lancaster Spalding

I will Never get over how lucky I am or how good I must have been in a past life to have you as my mum.

You are such a gift and a blessing to me! Happy Mother’s Day!

God could not be everywhere, so he created mothers. – Jewish Proverb

The Great Gatsby

I’ve been drunk for about a week now, and I thought it might sober me up to sit in a library.
-F. Scott Fitzgerald, The Great Gatsby

 
He wore a high collar from Darcy’s in London and an ascot, I wore vintage and the longest lashes I could find.
We happily landed at the Beverly Hills Hotel at bar 1912. We drank old fashioned sidecars, danced to the music the dj played and the music in our hearts.. And oh yeah…we kissed…

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The Wind Of Change..

The Wind of Change doth blow

In which direction

Who can know

I dare not ask

I turn and go

I’ll find out when I get there..

I love that little poem and nothing in life is truer. Change is our only guarantee. I have learned to embrace the beauty of change and just flow.. Lately, it seems as though a huge shift is taking place in my world and sometimes it’s best for me to take my mind off of everything to feel that flow.. Yesterday we rode to Malibu. The ocean, friends, the sunset, drinks, cigars, laughter and wind. The wind of change

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Blessed

I recognize the power we have to create.  I also recognize that once we create the things we desire, more desire is born. This is a great part of the human experience but I failed to acknowledge the blessings I manifested before jumping ship to the next goal.

Last week, I caught myself asking, pleading, meditating, begging and praying for something I already had. The reason? It’s a habit. I have been praying for it for years, (“God, please give me a TV show”) so many years that I forgot I actually had the damn thing and by habit I was still asking for it. 

I also learned something huge: Don’t ask for something from a space of not having it. Ask as though it is already yours!

I caught myself and had to laugh.  Then I asked myself, what else am I not standing in appreciation of?  I thought of my health, abundance, laughter, love, great family, friends that adore me, Happiness and remembered that I have so very much.

I set so many goals that I forget to appreciate the things that come easily. So, today I will focus on all the great happenings, which in turn, creates more great happenings and we can all do the same. Don’t judge another as lucky or unlucky because they are creating  just like everyone else. The question is, are we creating what we want?

Let everyday be January 1st, a chance to start over and have all that we crave!

Much Love,

Jennia

Have a look at what keeps me inspired (thanks Ester)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DI2HGON68Vs (watching this video and many like it will bring more than you could ever wish for.. I swear)

Wanna see clips from my show?

http://www.beyondthetalent.com

Eternal Sunshine

The Human experience amazes me.  It is both beautiful and baffling.  I believe this entire experience is charged by love, or the lack of it..  I often think of one of my favorite films: “Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind.” The two main characters fall madly in love and then throughout the course of their relationship things fall apart as with many couples.  All the things they loved about one another in the beginning, drew them apart in the end and with the help of a doctor, they erased each other from their minds. Having no memory of their doomed relationship, they meet and fall in love again but then discover they have both had their memories erased and decide to stay together any way..  That, to me, was the ultimate statement in love.

No matter how rough most relationships can be, we are there to go it again, to try to make it work, to give it another shot and pray that love prevails..

I must tell you that I cant seem to shake my curiosity in this area of the heart.  How does one maintain happiness, freedom, and love?  For me, I find the ego has the ability to get in the way and really mess it all up.  We are not fighting our significant other, we are fighting ourselves.

How do we break the vicious cycle?  I don’t claim to have all of the answers or even some for that matter but I do know these things are essential for my growth:

READ, READ, READ!! Read books about self love, spirituality and relationships.  Knowledge is power and having the wisdom to apply the knowledge is TRUE power.

Apologize. Saying “I’m sorry” from the heart can heal and taking responsibility is so freeing.

Find ways to be happy on your own. I make happiness a goal like some aspire to run a 10k marathon. If happiness is the goal, you will make decisions in alignment with it.

Be vulnerable. If you are constantly trying to protect your heart from being broken, you lose.  You may be missing out on true love.

Be honest. This is not easy because more than anything, we as humans lie about our feelings. “I wasn’t upset.” “I’m not jealous.” and the list goes on. Not only do we need to be honest, we need to create a space for our other half to feel comfortable with being honest.

And also.. Have a lot of sex! It releases hormones that make us happy and it strengthens our bond…

Our work for good relationships is like brushing our teeth, we must do it everyday, never missing one day.  And this work has to be done in all relationships: kids, family, co-workers…you name it!

Of course there’s a million other things that can help any relationship, these are just a few.. I realized that maybe the mind can’t be spotless, but with work and the releasing of things that are fear-based senseless distractions, then we begin to find love for ourselves and the love we desire.

New Leaves

I’m not big on New Years Resolutions as I truly believe that everyday is a day we can make new and start fresh, yet at this year’s end I do feel compelled to speak on some of the things that I not only learned but applied.  Why, you ask do I feel the need to express this? Maybe it’s the detox I’m doing, or the prayer for clarity, or it could be the fact that I’m a mom. Whatever the reason, sharing this with you feels divine.

Here are some of truths I’ve been blessed with:

There is so much power in claiming what you want to the Universe. The saying, “A closed mouth don’t get fed” truly applies. I began a thank you letter every morning for things that I am grateful and all that I have yet to recieve and WOW!!! The list for things not yet recieved keeps getting smaller and blessings keep coming. ( google the “15 minute miracle”)

Compassion is key! We only lose by looking down at those with less than us or those that make big mistakes. The power of taking a deep breath, sending them love, and finding a way to understand eliminates a TON of Karma. This was learned in the hardest of ways.

I know this one sounds simple but.. Stay Positive! Is your glass half empty or half full? There is no correct answer but I promise the choice of half full will bring you so much joy.  I am blessed to have always had a cheery view on life but that doesn’t mean life has thrown me some serious blows. Regardless of all that happens remember this; it always works out.

Take care of yourself! Eat healthy foods that nourish you, surround yourself with friends that want you to win and don’t allow all the toxins from the media (i.e. the news) into your life as all that negativity is designed to keep you afraid.

Lastly, show the people in your world that you appreciate them. A simple I love you or thanks for all that you’ve done goes a long way. Most agree that if they lost that special someone in their lives, they would focus solely on all that they love so why not start today..

Now it’s your turn.. What did you learn?