Why don’t you..paint a map of the world on all four walls of your boys’ nursery so they won’t grow up with a provincial point of view? –Diana Vreeland
Diana Vreeland changed the face of fashion and she changed the minds of woman all over the world.
Her Harper’s Bazaar column in the 1930’s had the women of that day inspired to think outside the mundane. I love her. As an ode to DV I made up my own ‘why don’t yous’ and inspire you to do something different.. today and always…
So… Why don’t you….
…Stop watching TV for a week.
…Send an ‘eat your heart out’ pic to your ex with only the words “just saying hi” and when he calls or texts, don’t respond.
…Only listen to music from the 40’s for a spell.
…Acknowledge that your mom did the very best she could then call and thank her.
…Step it waay up at work and then… Ask for a raise.
…Take a trip to Paris with a girlfriend and when you get there make a new “friend”.
…Learn a new language.
…go on a vintage only shopping trip and buy something fabulous.
…Wear red today.
…Kiss a beauttiful stranger
Why don’t you?
Diana Vreeland was a noted columnist and editor in the field of fashion. She worked for the fashion magazines Harper’s Bazaar and Vogue and as a special consultant at the Costume Institute of the Metropolitan Museum of Art.
Last night I dreamed of my childhood home in Indiana. It was night and I was laying next to my house in a beautiful field of daffodils. All I felt was peace and the buzzing of bees.
I looked it up in my Dreamer’s Dictionary.. Daffodils: Seen growing out of doors in a garden, or in a field, they indicate an unusually long and happy future.
What did you dream of last night?
A pied a terre.. Our little getaway.. A flat to pass on.
A sweet view but who needs a view when the inside is complete with a tufted couch, drawings, chandeliers in bird cages and a killer bedroom in the same stone color scheme… A place like this has me praying for rain, the crackle of the fire place and long, slow, deep kisses..
Warhol painted her. Yves Saint Laurent dressed her. Mick married her. Vogue covered her. If it were the 70’s, I would be Her.
As a kid, I found an amazing book of photos covering Studio 54 in it’s hay day and there she was: dark eyes and skin, gorgeous, thin, wearing Halston and all the while she seemed so aloof, so care free. She is Bianca Jagger, a style Icon.
It’s no mystery why all the great artists of that day mused her or why she landed on Vogue’s cover.. She was the ultimate party girl and as she posed and rarely smiled in her photos it always seemed as though she had a secret.
She made glamour look so easy…
(singing) I want the moves like Jagger..
I recognize the power we have to create. I also recognize that once we create the things we desire, more desire is born. This is a great part of the human experience but I failed to acknowledge the blessings I manifested before jumping ship to the next goal.
Last week, I caught myself asking, pleading, meditating, begging and praying for something I already had. The reason? It’s a habit. I have been praying for it for years, (“God, please give me a TV show”) so many years that I forgot I actually had the damn thing and by habit I was still asking for it.
I also learned something huge: Don’t ask for something from a space of not having it. Ask as though it is already yours!
I caught myself and had to laugh. Then I asked myself, what else am I not standing in appreciation of? I thought of my health, abundance, laughter, love, great family, friends that adore me, Happiness and remembered that I have so very much.
I set so many goals that I forget to appreciate the things that come easily. So, today I will focus on all the great happenings, which in turn, creates more great happenings and we can all do the same. Don’t judge another as lucky or unlucky because they are creating just like everyone else. The question is, are we creating what we want?
Let everyday be January 1st, a chance to start over and have all that we crave!
Have a look at what keeps me inspired (thanks Ester)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DI2HGON68Vs (watching this video and many like it will bring more than you could ever wish for.. I swear)
Wanna see clips from my show?
The Human experience amazes me. It is both beautiful and baffling. I believe this entire experience is charged by love, or the lack of it.. I often think of one of my favorite films: “Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind.” The two main characters fall madly in love and then throughout the course of their relationship things fall apart as with many couples. All the things they loved about one another in the beginning, drew them apart in the end and with the help of a doctor, they erased each other from their minds. Having no memory of their doomed relationship, they meet and fall in love again but then discover they have both had their memories erased and decide to stay together any way.. That, to me, was the ultimate statement in love.
No matter how rough most relationships can be, we are there to go it again, to try to make it work, to give it another shot and pray that love prevails..
I must tell you that I cant seem to shake my curiosity in this area of the heart. How does one maintain happiness, freedom, and love? For me, I find the ego has the ability to get in the way and really mess it all up. We are not fighting our significant other, we are fighting ourselves.
How do we break the vicious cycle? I don’t claim to have all of the answers or even some for that matter but I do know these things are essential for my growth:
READ, READ, READ!! Read books about self love, spirituality and relationships. Knowledge is power and having the wisdom to apply the knowledge is TRUE power.
Apologize. Saying “I’m sorry” from the heart can heal and taking responsibility is so freeing.
Find ways to be happy on your own. I make happiness a goal like some aspire to run a 10k marathon. If happiness is the goal, you will make decisions in alignment with it.
Be vulnerable. If you are constantly trying to protect your heart from being broken, you lose. You may be missing out on true love.
Be honest. This is not easy because more than anything, we as humans lie about our feelings. “I wasn’t upset.” “I’m not jealous.” and the list goes on. Not only do we need to be honest, we need to create a space for our other half to feel comfortable with being honest.
And also.. Have a lot of sex! It releases hormones that make us happy and it strengthens our bond…
Our work for good relationships is like brushing our teeth, we must do it everyday, never missing one day. And this work has to be done in all relationships: kids, family, co-workers…you name it!
Of course there’s a million other things that can help any relationship, these are just a few.. I realized that maybe the mind can’t be spotless, but with work and the releasing of things that are fear-based senseless distractions, then we begin to find love for ourselves and the love we desire.
I’m not big on New Years Resolutions as I truly believe that everyday is a day we can make new and start fresh, yet at this year’s end I do feel compelled to speak on some of the things that I not only learned but applied. Why, you ask do I feel the need to express this? Maybe it’s the detox I’m doing, or the prayer for clarity, or it could be the fact that I’m a mom. Whatever the reason, sharing this with you feels divine.
Here are some of truths I’ve been blessed with:
There is so much power in claiming what you want to the Universe. The saying, “A closed mouth don’t get fed” truly applies. I began a thank you letter every morning for things that I am grateful and all that I have yet to recieve and WOW!!! The list for things not yet recieved keeps getting smaller and blessings keep coming. ( google the “15 minute miracle”)
Compassion is key! We only lose by looking down at those with less than us or those that make big mistakes. The power of taking a deep breath, sending them love, and finding a way to understand eliminates a TON of Karma. This was learned in the hardest of ways.
I know this one sounds simple but.. Stay Positive! Is your glass half empty or half full? There is no correct answer but I promise the choice of half full will bring you so much joy. I am blessed to have always had a cheery view on life but that doesn’t mean life has thrown me some serious blows. Regardless of all that happens remember this; it always works out.
Take care of yourself! Eat healthy foods that nourish you, surround yourself with friends that want you to win and don’t allow all the toxins from the media (i.e. the news) into your life as all that negativity is designed to keep you afraid.
Lastly, show the people in your world that you appreciate them. A simple I love you or thanks for all that you’ve done goes a long way. Most agree that if they lost that special someone in their lives, they would focus solely on all that they love so why not start today..
Now it’s your turn.. What did you learn?
Join me…Today I picture myself flooded with the glow of a powerful bright light that is guiding me on my positive path of success and happiness!
let this day be better than all others…
There is nothing more than this! This feeling, this life… Nothing is more paramount than being fully self expressed, to be YOU fully. Thank you all for the love and support. Your visits leave me feeling… special and i dont mean that in short yellow bus sorta way…. really special!!